{"id":649,"date":"2017-09-25T18:49:44","date_gmt":"2017-09-25T18:49:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/westernmirror.com\/?p=649"},"modified":"2017-09-25T18:56:32","modified_gmt":"2017-09-25T18:56:32","slug":"i-know-she-cheated-but-im-staying-youths-of-the-west","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/westernmirror.com\/?p=649","title":{"rendered":"“I know she cheated, but I’m staying”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Submitted to: Youths Of the West – A Western Mirror publication<\/em><\/p>\n

“The young lady I\u2019ve committed to spending the rest of my life with cheated on me. What\u2019s worse, she doesn\u2019t know that I know, and I think I want to keep it that way” – P.A.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019m not exactly sure whether this is the right medium for what I\u2019m about to say, but given that I\u2019m just 24 years old, this seems as good a place as any to get this off my chest. Now, I\u2019m not exactly sure what I seek to get from this impending admission; perhaps I just need to lift this burden off my chest, or simply, at the risk of sounding like a narcissist, to be center stage for once in all of this.<\/em><\/p>\n

I recently got engaged. Yes, I\u2019m young, in some people\u2019s eyes, but I know what I want\u2026 at least I\u2019m convinced I do, and if it hadn\u2019t been clear up to this point, I\u2019m a male. My confession? The young lady I\u2019ve committed to spending the rest of my life with cheated on me. What\u2019s worse, she doesn\u2019t know that I know, and I think I want to keep it that way. At this point, you may be thinking I should leave, but doing that is the least of my confusion at this point. The main reason why I sought to write this to YOW, is this: despite knowing that just after two weeks after we got engaged, she hooked up with an ex (I\u2019ve got picture evidence to prove it), I still want to marry her, and in some strange way, even more than I wanted to initially. Perhaps foolishly, I still love her.<\/p>\n

Before you judge me, please consider that I\u2019ve known about and wrestled with knowing about her infidelity for a while, but I feel no differently towards her where it really matters. That\u2019s love, right? Or maybe those are the ramblings of someone with low self-esteem or low self- worth, right? Either ways, I can\u2019t say for sure why I feel the way I do, but I kid you not, she looks at me today with more love in her eyes than she ever did. And I can feel it too.<\/p>\n

Honestly, it hurts like hell to know that perhaps I wasn\u2019t enough for her, which caused her to step outside of the boundaries of our committed relationship, but mishaps do happen. She\u2019s just 22, and perhaps, despite her love for me, she feels like there are things she still needs to figure out. Before now, we had been together for 8 years, and although we had our challenges there, there was never any doubt that we would end up staring the future in the face together. I\u2019m just about done with college, and she has two years left, and already, I\u2019ve secured a pretty decent job.<\/p>\n

She hasn\u2019t given me any hints of what happened, but her recent overflow of affection has indicated some sort of remorse. Or maybe I\u2019m just choosing to believe that. But people make mistakes, and maybe I just want to feel like I\u2019m not being na\u00efve, but aren\u2019t those things a given in love? When you\u2019re young, and you\u2019ve got a good thing, maybe the last thing you\u2019re supposed to do is walk away from it. Of course, that\u2019s all dependent upon what the issue is, but when you know what you have, work at it, and give your love a chance to prove it can withstand certain tests. It\u2019s very likely that many of you won\u2019t understand why I won\u2019t confront her about this, even though I have hard evidence, but you have got to pick your battles. I don\u2019t know what the future holds for us, but I know what I want it to be.<\/p>\n

I want to grow old with this woman, and I want us to survive these trials together. This isn\u2019t a case of infatuation, but love in every sense of the word. So if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, and I hope you don\u2019t, think about what you have. And think about your life without it. If you feel right without them, go, but if you don\u2019t, stand and fight.<\/p>\n

I love you dearest, and that\u2019s all that matters now. I forgive you, and we will survive this.<\/p>\n

As I write this, we are getting ready to go out on a date, and she just swung by in her dress to randomly kiss me. And I\u2019m supposed to give this all up right now? I can\u2019t. Not yet.<\/p>\n

YOW, know what\u2019s important to you, and hold on to it.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll let you know how the wedding goes LOL. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Thank you for allowing me to share this.<\/p>\n

Yours truly,<\/p>\n

P.A.<\/p>\n

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